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Monday, 24 July 2017

4 Lessons I Learned As a Teenager

The teenage years are tricky ones, full of stress and change. My high-school years easily encapsulated the best and worst moments of my lifetime. The learning curve was a steep one and the lessons I learnt have carried me well ever since. I like to look back and see how those years shaped me into the person I am  today. Sometime it's nice to remind yourself of where it all went a bit wrong, before you find yourself slipping into old habits. It's easy to look back now and see all of the ways I made mistakes. I'm certain that in a few years time I'll be writing a similar post about my twenties.  

I wish I’d learnt earlier the importance of quality over quantity. I spent far too long giving time to people who left me feeling completely drained every time I saw them. There were ‘friends’ who used me as a human journal, only ever wanting to talk about themselves and forgetting that I, too, was alive and feeling. ‘Friends’ that said nasty things about the way I looked behind my back and fuelled an already prominent self-loathing for my body. I definitely advocate a brutal approach in cutting people out of my life now.If I don't walk away from them feeling good, they’re not worth my time. Thankfully, during my teenage years I managed to make two friends who will stick with me for life. They are the kindest, most supportive people in the world. Having friendships like these has made me much more picky about who I spend my time with.

Jesus Christ, where to begin. I spent too much time with guys that I thought were nice but wasn’t really all that bothered about. Turns out, life is too short to be with someone who you’re not completely in love with. Nice is just that – nice, and it’s not always enough. If your life is not vastly improved when with them, they need to go. If you would rather be doing anything else than see them, they need to go. Stop panicking that you’re actually incapable of loving someone. You are, those guys just aren’t that someone. Chill out.

In my later teenage years, I worked my socks off to the detriment of almost everything else, including relationships, friendships, family and fun. That’s not to say that good grades and a strong work ethic haven’t held me in good stead. They’ve helped me get to exactly where I want to be. However, I’m pretty sure I still could have got here with a bit of balance. Spending a year of your life in floods of tears, terrified that you’re never going to feel okay again, is not worth it. No amount of A*s will make up for a lack of mental health.

Be more objective with your body. Take the time to realise that it’s pretty average and that average is okay. You don’t have to look like those thin girls in the magazines. Boys will not be repulsed by you. It’s fine. And whilst you’re at it, stop looking at it in the mirror so much. All that fixating on your thighs is doing you no good. You don’t give other people’s physicality a second thought. Please do yourself the same courtesy.


1 comment

  1. I love this post, and can relate so much! It's nice to know that you can come out on top of all of these things, all it takes is a little bit of realisation X


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