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Wednesday, 21 February 2018

How I'm Fixing Failed New Year's Resolutions

It's February and the good intentions of January 1st seem like a distant memory. The new gym clothes are gathering dust at the bottom of your wardrobe, your book has been dog-eared on the same page for weeks and you're downing the vino like there's no tomorrow. It's no secret that most New Year's resolutions fail within a matter of weeks. But there's still 10 months left of the year. That's 10 months worth of weight-losing, skill-learning, friendship-making, self-loving bliss up for grabs. It's never too late to start again. The difference between success and failure isn't some magical quality that others possess and you don't. It's just persistence.

Here are the five steps that I've used in the past few weeks to reassess my New Year's Resolutions and make sure I'm on the right track to ending this year better than I started it.

1 // Admit You Failed 

This step probably sounds a bit crazy. If you weren't already aware of your resolution downfall, you probably wouldn't be here. What I really mean here is to take a moment to really be honest with yourself. I know when I fail to do something, I like to just bury my head in the sand and forget about it. Thinking about it makes me feel guilty, so I prefer to just ignore it. But that's not how we make progress. Instead I've found that it's much more useful to admit my failure fully to myself (in a very kind and non-judgmental way), so that I get back on track. It's difficult but necessary.

2 // Change Your Attitude

I've found that fuelling myself with self-love is a hundred times more effective than doing something with guilt or self-hatred. It's super important to stay in a positive and kind mindset. You should be your biggest cheerleader. That means that every time you do something towards your goal, you take a moment to feel truly proud of yourself. Get giddy with excitement about all the great changes you're making. If you can, keep a note of all of the progress you've made. That way, when you notice negative thoughts rearing their ugly head, you can give this a read and get back into a place of positivity.

3 // Pinpoint What Went Wrong 

Once you've been completely honest with yourself and admitted that things haven't gone exactly to plan, it's time to pinpoint where it all went wrong. What was it that made you fall off the wagon? Did you make too many changes too soon? Was your method not fun or effective enough to stick at? Did you associate actually doing the activity with guilt about having overlooked it for so long? Whilst dusting yourself off and trying again is always admirable, it's also pretty stupid if you continue to repeat the same behaviour and expect different results. Once you've pinpointed exactly where it's gone wrong, work out how you can make changes to your game plan to ensure success this time around.

4 // Build On The New 

Don't let yourself get caught up in your old self. Focus on adding new habits to your life rather than taking them away. In order to completely change something about yourself, you need to change your perception of who you are as a person. If, in your mind, you're someone that never exercises and is terrible with money, then it's highly likely that you won't be getting fit or saving for a house any time soon. Don't think of this crazy accomplished new you as the person you aspire to be one day. Think of him/her as who you are right now. What would they do? Live as if you are already that person.

5 // Repeat 

I've got some bad news for you. Success isn't linear, which means that you'll probably fail again. And again. And again. But that's okay! Three steps forward and two steps back is still progress. Always remember that it's better to make slow progress than no progress.



  1. This is such a great post, I really enjoyed reading it. I certainly have some failed new years resolutions that I need to take 2 on!

    Danielle xx

  2. This is really good! I've been doing quite well with my resolutions but some of them I haven't actually even got round to starting yet, so this was a great post for me :) xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x


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